With success comes haters, and you need to know how to deal with haters in your side hustle journey. Almost every side hustler encounter haters along the way. Haters are people who want to bring you down so that they feel more powerful. Haters are people who don’t have what you have and they don’t want you to get any closer to your goals.
It’s very important to recognize what a hater is trying to do before letting it affect you.
I created this post because I received a voice message from a fellow Hobby Hustler asking me how she can deal with haters.
The first question I asked her was, “Are you experiencing any recent success’ or wins that you’ve posted about?”. Turns out, she just recently promoted her new podcast launch, and after releasing the first episode, her hater told her that the sound quality sucked and she wouldn’t have any success, so just quit already.
To most people, it may seem easy…
Don’t listen to the haters…. tune them out… just keep working on what you feel is best.
These are all different phrases people will tell you on how to deal with haters, but the truth is, when you are in it, you don’t think rationally and you let it get to you.
7 ways that will help you deal with haters in your side hustle:
1. Evaluate Yourself
When you receive hatred from someone, the first thing you should do is assess what you were doing and whether or not you are actually in the wrong or not. In the above example with our fellow Hobby Hustler, she had just launched a podcast and did nothing wrong. In this case, you have passed step 1.
However, there is another side to this. Sometime’s people who hate realize something that you never even realize. Ask yourself:
– Have I done something unethically?
– Have I done something that goes against my brand and what I stand for?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, the hater is simply not hating, but rather calling you out on something. As business owners, we tend to think about activities that move the needle, and in doing so, you may promote something that goes against your ethics.
Example: Using affiliate links to promote products you’ve never tried or used, just for the sake of making money!
What to do if you made a mistake and were acting wrongly?
Be 100% honest with your community, clients, customers, or whoever it is that you are speaking to. Let them know your situation and why you got into it. Most people are understanding, and as long as it doesn’t happen in the future again, you should be fine.
2. Listen to them
This advice will be a little controversial, and I am well aware of that. Some people will tell you to completely ignore them and do not even think about what they’re saying.
My advice is to be extremely disciplined but read them. Do they make any valid points? If they do, make changes for the better. If you feel that they are just trying to bring you down and bringing up valid points, then don’t worry about them.
It is always better to read and listen than to completely ignore it. Besides, you really should not be getting that many haters!
3. Control your anger
Controlling your anger will be more and less difficult for everyone. I once worked with an extremely short-tempered person, who, if you simply didn’t say hi to him properly, would freak out. If you are finding that you are getting angry from reading hate mail or dealing with the haters, just remember:
i) Think before you speak! It takes 5 years to build your reputation but only one incident to destroy it.
ii) Exercise! This is my way of dealing with anger and scatterbrain!
iii) Use humor to answer them. Usually, haters do not want to see you happy and they want to see you suffering in any way. If you use a humourous response, they will feel as if their comment did not work.
4. Surround yourself with people who support you
MY FAVOURITE! I recently listened to a podcast episode with Justin Schenck and he said that he loves to be the dumbest person in the room. He actively tries to put himself in scenarios where he is the dumbest person in the room. He used “dumb”, but what he really means is the least skilled/knowledgable about a specific topic.
Justin does this so that wherever he goes, he can learn and become smarter.
It goes to show you how important the people you surround yourself with are!
One reason I love to surround myself with fellow Hobby Hustlers and like-minded entrepreneurs is that whenever I’m feeling a certain way or have a question, they are always there for me and the rest of the people in our community.
A Perfect Example – After receiving this question of, “How do I deal with my haters?”, I posted the question in our private Hobby Hustler Community… and look at the results in just a few hours!
5. Appreciate your victories
If you don’t celebrate your victories, you’ll drown in the negativity of the haters and won’t remember any of the positives in your business.
Remember to share your victories with your real friends and let them appreciate and celebrate with you.
6. Understand you’re reaching success
Most of the time, when you are receiving hate from people you don’t know, that means you are reaching a new level of success.
It means that you are reaching people you don’t know, which, when you really think about it, it’s a huge milestone in itself and should be celebrated!
7. Don’t become one!
Lastly, when you start to see haters, you will have the option of becoming one or breaking through the noise! Haters are extremely powerful – don’t forget that.
They will make you feel so down, that you will want to make the next person feel down, just so that you can boost your mood and feel like you are doing better.
BE POSITIVE AND GET CONNECTED WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE!
I hope you have a better understanding of how to deal with haters that are going to bring you down. Expect it and know how to deal with them.
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